Filesystem Blues

Ok, so I'm not the average marketing sheep. I do my own thing. Because of that I have several (my wife might say a plethora) computers in the house. I use Linux primarily, but I have the requisite Windows boxes, and even a Mac or three.
They each have their areas of usefulness. One of the ways I share files is using external storage devices. USB or Firewire. While this is a great, fast, handy thing, I have one big complaint. Why the heck isn't there a decent common filesystem I can use?

I've had to settle for using the crappy FAT32 filesystem on them mostly. Even though it's probably the most useless filesystem available, it has the single advantage that nearly everything can read and write FAT32 cleanly.

Here's what I want from a filesystem under all my OS's:

- native, stable support in MacOS, Windows, and Linux
- Read write support in all OS's
- >4Gb file supoprt
- ACL supoprt (or at least a concept of ownership and write access)
- robust (can handle power loss etc.) possibly some kind of journalling

Fat32 only meets the first two.
NTFS only meets the third and fourth
HFS is too bizzare
NFS defeats the purpose of an external drive
SMBFS " " "

sigh.